On a more serious note, I have been pondering since I got yesterday's mail. In the mail was a note from a friend. She's a "work friend" rather than a close friend, and I was very surprised when she confided in me that she got divorced last August, and hasn't told anyone but a counselor. I've been writing and re-writing my return letter in my head, trying to get it just right. It may take a while.
Here's what I have so far. Comments & suggestions are welcome.
Dear X, Thank you, both for the compliment about my bravery, and for your
trust in confiding in me. I am honored beyond saying that you would share this
news with me, and of course I will respect your privacy. However, I want to make
sure you know that I am here any time you need someone to talk to. We could even
stick with written correspondence, and you'd never have to discuss anything.
Although my relationship with [Fartface Ex] was nowhere near as long as
yours with [former Mr. X], I do know the heartbreak which comes from one person
refusing to admit that there are problems in a relationship. That kind of
blindness is extremely destructive, and while I don't know all the details, I
think you did the right thing. I wish this hadn't happened to you, and I
certainly hope that your life moves upward from here.
If you would like me to tell [mutual friend I thought she was closer to
than me] what happened, I will do so, otherwise, I will not say anything to
anyone. I am tremendously complimented by your trust in me, and will not breach
it. If you need anything, please don't hesitate to let me know.