Saturday, April 03, 2010

Entitled or insecure?

If someone asks for advice on a message board, and one of the respondents posts a 500-word patronizing, condescending, polysyllabic bloviation in response, what does it make said bloviator when she then returns to the thread to complain that the original poster hasn't thanked her for her post? Specifically, when said bloviator says she wants back the time she invested?

Disgustingly entitled, or horrendously insecure?

*ponders*

8 comments:

Zayrina said...

Sounds like those bitches who post on Lush.

Many who post there are prime examples of why I don't like women overly much.

Ms. Jingle said...

Why, it sounds to me like someone thinks awfully much of herself.

Blowhards. Ignore them.

bowmansinbavaria said...

I can see your point, and if one were to label her reaction, maybe entitlement? But I honestly don't think either is the case.

Knowing the poster of whom you speak, I can tell you she's one of the most confident people I know, and not in a pretentious way. I admire that about her. She's secure in her beliefs, and self-confident, having come from a place of deep personal struggle in the past.

Also, looking at it from her point of view, she did put a lot of thought into her response and spend a lot of time writing it out. She does genuinely care about others, and I think her post was made out of true concern for the original poster.

So I can't blame her for feeling annoyed that there wasn't even an acknowledgment that her post was read. I think I would feel the same way.

Jammies said...

Z, yes, it was the Lush board, but I can't say the entitlement and patronizing is limited to women alone. There are plenty of men who are equally assholic in the very same way.

Ms. Jingle, first of all, hi! Second, from now on I will be ignoring the bloviator--I would have done so this time, but she was being an entitled bitch to a friend of mine.

Rosy, we're going to have to agree to disagree on this one. :(

Sherri said...

Whether or not thanks is required or proper depends entirely on how the person receiving said advice views it. The intentions of the person posting, whatever they are, really don't enter into it. If the person receiving it doesn't like the advice, doesn't find it useful, or finds it insulting, no thanks is forthcoming.

Truth of the matter is, when one posts online, one is doing it for free -- thanks is extra. If one expects to be paid for it, make sure that arrangement is made ahead of time. There's no sending of invoices afterwards.

Ms. Jingle said...

Oh, Jams, you know Ms. Jingle. It's me.

Ms. Jingle said...

Er...Becs!

Jammies said...

Sherri, yes, that's how I saw it.

Becs, I didn't recognize you in the Jinglesuit. Kudos on your progress, now that I've read that blog!